Posted by admin on July 9th, 2008 — Posted in Web Of Relationships
Symbols! Weddings are full of them. Exchanging rings. Exchanging roses. Tying hands with ribbons. Merging coloured sands. Lighting candles. Releasing doves or butterflies. Ringing bells and kissing chimney sweeps. But when it comes to real drama, no symbol can match smashing a glass or two.
Of course, you don’t need a wedding if you feel the need to break something. Go to a Greek restaurant when they’re having one of their celebratory dinners. At the end of the night you, and the other diners, will be invited by mine host and hostess to pick up a plate and smash it to smithereens. Even though, as I understand it, the china is specifically designed for this, being more fragile and a great deal less expensive than that on which you have your meal, nonetheless it’s a highly therapeutic and exhilarating activity.
Films would have you believe that peeved wives are forever tossing their good china at erring husband. Perhaps in a screenwriter’s dream they do. In real life a dozen sensible questions would present themselves in defense of the innocent crockery. Is this piece expensive? Is it part of a set? Can it be replaced? Will it make a mess? Who’s the dummy who’s going to have to clean it up?
By the time you start looking for some less attractive alternative, he’s out the door, whistling down the stairs.
So the custom of that toast that a man makes to his bride, followed by smashing the glass in which the toast was made, is an intriguing one. Of course, it would be a tradition started by a man. He didn’t have to tidy up afterward. But even why a man could be so wantonly destructive is hard to fathom.
There is an apocryphal story suggesting that it could have started with a Russian Prince entertaining a hundred or so of Englishmen at the betrothal of his son to a minor English Princess.
They had all been poured a cup of tea - the Russians were almost as famous for their tea-drinking as their vodka-drinking - when the Prince rose to propose a toast. His cup was almost at his lips when he started and began to roar at an elderly servant standing near by.
‘What are you playing at, Katrina?’ he howled like a bear in a trap. ‘You call this tea?’
‘Why are you making a spectacle of yourself, Mihal Mihailovich?’ she returned unperturbed. Having known the man when he used to crawl around in his nappy, and sometimes without, she was in no way intimidated.
‘Look at this tea, woman,’ the cup was shaking in his hand, while his face was a volcano about to erupt. ‘It’s so full of tea leaves five flies could get bogged down and never be heard of again.’
‘One fly, perhaps,’ was the infuriating answer. ‘Five never.’
‘Why, why, you, you,’ like a Marat Safin on the losing end of a tennis match he had to let loose with something, and his tea cup being closest at hand he hurled it against the fireplace.
The Englishmen who hadn’t understood a word of this interchange, looked at each other in bewilderment and decided when in Rome. Dozens of the finest pieces of china which had managed to survive the Napoleonic wars, went flying at the fireplace. The room looked as if a bomb had gone off. And needless to say, the English Princess and her Russian Prince never did tie the knot.
Since that time men have taken the opportunity of their upcoming nuptial to smash their toasting glasses against any available fireplace.
Some would have you believe that this strange custom was started by a highly romantic Frenchman. However, while a Frenchman makes a romantic lover, he could never be accused of lacking common sense. Tossing glasses at a fireplace could never be attributed to anything but a temporary loss of sanity - or temper.
Vlady is an Australian Civil Marriage Celebrant. She is also an author of “Complete Book of Australian Weddings” and “The Small Organisation Handbook”. She is a member of Australian Civil Marriage Celebrants of Queensland and Celebrants Training Association. She is also a member of Australian Authors and Romance Writers of Australia association.
You can visit Vlady at her website http://www.vlady-celebrant.com
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Posted by admin on July 5th, 2008 — Posted in Web Of Relationships
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Posted by admin on May 8th, 2008 — Posted in Web Of Relationships
The most powerful romance doesn’t begin with physical action,
but rather with mental contemplation and expectation. It starts
with a simple idea or fantasy that develops into closer intimacy
between two connected partners. Having a satisfying romantic
relationship with your husband or wife takes some thought and
leg work, but it doesn’t have be burdensome. In reality,
becoming a romantic person can be fun, exciting and fulfilling
for you and your spouse.
And if you’re truly committed to making it work, romance will
become second nature for you. All you need is:
# a willing heart to invest the time,
# access to a computer,
# and maybe a little creativity.
If you’re a little skeptical, don’t worry, I started with only
one of the three too. Here are three keys that have worked for
my husband and me.
1. Romance of the mind begins when the sun comes up, not
after it goes down. If you want have a successful romance
with your husband or wife, start the day thinking about what
your partner likes or wants most. Maybe it’s a specific request,
a deed, or a special gift. Doesn’t have to be fancy, but it does
need to be relevant to your relationship. Drop hints throughout
the day to build expectancy. Some suggestions are short and
sweet (or sexy) notes, photos, or voice/text messages. The idea
is to show that you’re listening, to give your honey a sense of
desirability and to build up his/her receptiveness for
affection. (Notice I did not say sex per se.)
2. Romance of the mind is ritualistic, not boring or
repetitive, but endearing. I recently read an article about
couples who love having fun with each other.
(http://women.msn.com/a460717.armx?GT1=6920) The one thing that
they all had in common was that they had certain rituals that
they enjoyed doing together. When you have a certain ritual that
you and your partner share, it gives you something to look
forward to throughout the day, week, month or year.
Something my husband and I do to wind down our day is chat over
tea, coffee, or chocolate (in the winter) and smoothies (in the
summer). Sometimes we have music in the background, sometimes
not. Sometimes it leads to more, sometimes not. But this
practice has gotten us through some tough times spiritually,
emotionally, physically, mentally and even professionally.
3. Romance of the mind is well-planned but has a feeling of
spontaneity. One of the movies that I truly enjoyed this
year was Hitch. He had a way of making romance look easy, but he
wasn’t perfect. He planned, but he wasn’t rigid. And when his
plans fell apart, he could go with the flow. If only we all
could be so talented. I’ll let you in on a little secret: the
good news is that we can.
Just plan around what you and your wife or husband like doing.
If you like elaborate evenings for two, go for it. If you love
to travel, there are plenty of romantic places to see. If you
like staying home and playing board games– there are plenty of
nice (and some naughty) ones out there. Just plan and see where
you’ll end up.
When we lived in Brooklyn, my husband and I used to plan walking
dates in Prospect Park (the Central Park of Brooklyn) or near
the water along lower Manhattan. We’d have our meeting time and
place, but no specific agenda in mind. Sometimes we heard
musicians. Sometimes we just enjoyed nature. One time we even
had an unexpected fireworks show. It was spectacular against the
purple glow cast on the water. I was certain that he knew about
it. He denies it to this day.
Hope this post inspires you to make an effort and draws you
closer to your spouse.
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Posted by admin on April 28th, 2008 — Posted in Web Of Relationships
Decorations to your ceremony site can provide a personal feeling to you and your guests. The location of your ceremony is going to determine how much or how little decoration is allowed for. During the planning process, you should familiarize yourself with the location to learn what can and can’t be done. Some venues may be more liberal than others when it comes to decorations. The manager of the property should be able to advise you of any restrictions. You should insist to have any restrictions and rules included in the contract.
If you are lucky, decorations may already be included in the site fee. Event facilities specializing normally include items such as chairs, aisle runners, kneeling benches, candelabras, unity candleholders, and bridal archways in the site fee. If you choose a facility that does not, or only provides certain d©cor, than you’ll need provide your own decoration. Your wedding planner should be able to recommend local rental companies. Be sure that the decoration compliments the location and the style of your wedding.
When considering a ceremony location you should ask the following questions:
What are the fees, and what is included?
How much time is allowed for the ceremony? Is there are ceremony before or after yours?
Are their any restrictions regarding ceremony attire?
How many people will the venue hold? Is the venue insured?
How much are the cleanup fees, in case rice, birdseed, or rose petals be thrown?
Is there a changing room available?
Are there any restrictions regarding flowers or candles?
What are the rules regarding photography?
Are there any noise or music related restrictions?
Is there enough parking?
Does it have a view?
Be sure to get everything in writing. You may verbally agree on something, but requirements and concerns written in your contract are going to be more effective in case of any disputes.
George Meszaros www.sweet-reflections.com
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Posted by admin on April 16th, 2008 — Posted in Web Of Relationships
As we all know there are times in marriage when we need to detach from our spouse. It is far better to detach with love then to burst out with angry, destructive, or negative feelings. When we detach it gives us some time to think about the situation at length and then come back to our spouse with a satisfying solution.
What happens when we don’t detach? Often times we come on too harsh with our feelings. We don’t think before we spew out emotional garbage onto our spouse.
Feelings are great for expressing our selves but if we use destructive feelings to abuse or otherwise keep us from finding a solution to our marital issues then feelings become a problem.
If we use impulsive and reckless feelings to dictate how we will treat our spouse it can become the way we decide to deal with all marital issues until it becomes a habitual way of behaving.
If we let our feelings determine how we will love, we certainly won’t be able to deal with issues appropriately. Unfortunately, many marriages are like this; couples literally feed off of the feelings of each other. But in reality destructive feelings starve the marriage of nutrients.
For instance, your partner’s reaction to your reaction might trigger off a certain set of thoughtless feelings that have been played out before, but the issue never gets resolved, therefore it gets put on the backburner with all the rest of the garbage that didn’t get fed properly.
It takes spiritual effort on both sides to have an almost idyllic marriage we read about in storybooks. It takes spiritual effort to stay married! Instead of looking for reasons to leave the marriage, we can learn to detach with love, which takes the spiritual resolve that I am talking about.
There is a difference between just detaching from our spouse and detaching WITH LOVE. Detaching with angry feelings and not caring about our spouse is detaching inappropriately. This is NOT the kind of detachment I’m talking about.
Detaching with love is considering our spouses feelings and accepting who they are. Sometimes it is just better to give up and give in rather than get in a messy and heated argument that isn’t going anywhere anyway. It is at these times we can detach from our partner with love.
When we do this we come away feeling better emotionally and spiritually.
Detaching with love means to turn the other cheek. For instance if your spouse is not doing anything hostile to you or the marriage, often times turning the other cheek is the better way to go. Detaching in this way becomes a learned way of behavior, which is far better for your psyche. Instead of being the antagonist we have been we can learn to be more accepting, caring and loving.
When you humble your self and turn the other cheek you will feel so much better about your self and about your spouse. Being humble and kind is not as hard as it seems. Especially when we see for our selves the positive results it will bring into the marriage!
Detaching with love is being humble, forgiving, and accepting. Demonstrating all of these wonderful character traits is being loving towards the person we married. But in a heated battle with our spouse, angry words delete all of those traits from our mind and the angry words end up controlling our behavior.
Remember, take it one day at a time, and don’t look at it as if you have to be all of these things right now this minute. Just knowing when you might be using destructive feelings when dealing with marital issues is a big start to trying to be humble and kind through proper expression of self.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3
No marriage is ever perfect here on earth; it just isn’t going to happen. But we can certainly enjoy the spouse we are married to by putting forth a little bit more effort. We must learn to accept our spouse and love our spouse in spite of their faults if we want to be satisfied in our marriage.
When we see faults in our spouse that is when we should be gentle and kind and patient like scripture above says. Does you spouse’s actions or personality sometimes annoy you? Rather then dwelling on your spouse’s weakness or looking for faults, detach with love.
If you continue being kind gentle and loving, you will see that you will want to spend more time with your spouse because you have LEARNED to accept them for who they are, faults and all.
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Angie Lewis offers spiritual enlightenment tips for couples in marriage, and is the author of new release book JOURNEY ON THE ROADS LESS TRAVELED.
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Posted by admin on April 6th, 2008 — Posted in Web Of Relationships
Wedding shower favors should be chosen carefully - they represent the bride’s last chance to have some fun! Unlike wedding day favors, which may have to embrace a whole range of guests, from grandparents to your sister’s kids, wedding shower favors are just for the girls! And after a long period of dedicated planning and proffering support, don’t your shower guests deserve all the fun of frivolous wedding shower favors?
And let’s not forget the bride - wedding shower party favors should reflect her last foray into single female life! Wedding shower favors should be chosen to reflect the loves of the bride - after all, with all the hard work her new husband is going to require, who knows when she’ll get the relive the fun represented by her wedding shower favors!
So who chooses the wedding shower party favors? Just like the planning of the shower itself, there are no hard and fast rules. Just as wedding traditions are adapting to fit the wide range of couples getting married today, wedding shower favors are available to suit the interests of any bride.
Regardless of who is planning the occasion, the wedding shower party favors should embody the theme of the shower itself, and this will depend on the personality of the bride. A good bridesmaid will know exactly what her bride needs! Whether she is a serious type, or a dedicated partygoer, there are wedding shower favors available to suit every type of shower.
Whether you are bride or bridesmaid, remember that the shower is hopefully a one off occasion - so use your wedding shower favors to make it as memorable as possible! These are also the items that will remind your closest girlfriends of celebrating their last big night of singledom with you, so consider choosing wedding shower favors that can double up as keepsakes. Hopefully, your wedding shower favors will help you have a night to remember!
Wedding shower favors work well when they follow your shower theme.
For a website totally devoted to Wedding Favors visit Peter’s Website The Wedding Favors Guide and find out about Unique Wedding Favors as well as Wedding Favor Ideas and more, including Cheap Wedding Favors and Wedding Shower Favors.
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Posted by admin on April 5th, 2008 — Posted in Web Of Relationships
If you are looking to have an unusual Las Vegas wedding, you won’t be disappointed. Las Vegas has many delightfully unique wedding locations and packages to choose from. The hardest part may be deciding how crazy you want to get when planning your Las Vegas wedding. Probably the most unusual wedding offered in Las Vegas would be the one at the Treasure Island Hotel. They offer a package that allows you to have your wedding aboard the big pirate ship located in front of their hotel. While the happy couple says their vows aboard the ship, their wedding guests watch from a nearby dock.
Another great wedding package that is offered in Las Vegas is the gondola wedding at the Venetian Hotel. You can exchange vows while floating down a canal in a romantic Venice setting. The Venetian and Treasure Island are far from the only hotels to offer such unique wedding packages. At the Riviera Hotel, they can arrange for you to take the plunge on the roller coaster at the top of the Stratosphere Tower which is over a 1000 feet above the ground. At the Bellagio Hotel, they offer a stunning wedding package in which the ceremony takes place on a two level terrace overlooking their lake and fountain show. When the newlyweds kiss, the fountains go off. Pretty romantic, huh?
Another wedding package that is without a doubt exclusive to Las Vegas is at the Paris Hotel, where couples can say their nuptials at the top of the replica of the Eiffel Tower. The observation deck there offers amazing views of the famous Las Vegas Strip. Another great option for those seeking something different for their wedding is one of the limousine weddings offered by many of the wedding chapels. You can say I do in the back of a limousine while it cruises the Strip.
Of course I can’t speak of unusual wedding opportunities in Las Vegas without mentioning one of the things that the city is famous for. Drive Thru Wedding Chapels are a really great option if you want unusual wedding. Where else but in Las Vegas can you get married without ever having to leave the comfort of your vehicle? And if you flew there from somewhere else and don’t have a vehicle, no need to worry. Many Las Vegas Drive Thru Chapels offer vehicles that you can use as part of their wedding packages. Limousines, sports cars, a monster truck, and an Elvis impersonator driving a Cadillac are just some of the options that are available.
So if you are looking for something a little different for your Las Vegas wedding, your choices are almost limitless in this exciting city. This is probably just another one of the many reasons that Las Vegas has earned its nickname as Wedding Capital of the World.
Rebecca Johnson is owner of Las Vegas Wedding Informer, a website about Las Vegas weddings. For more Las Vegas wedding location and package information, or to read Las Vegas wedding location reviews and planning articles visit http://www.lasvegasweddinginformer.com.
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